When was the last time you get disappointed by a movie? I would wager a guess that this happened often times. Well, welcome to the club! You’re not exactly alone.
A lot of people who watch movies somehow, someway, get dissatisfied at some level. The reason for this varies tremendously! Everybody is different, either in terms of background, or experiences, or these differences add up in a major way.
That’s why one movie may be the “best thing since sliced bread” to one person, and might be a completely horrible disaster at the same level as a burning trash fire to another person. What gives? Why such disparity and disconnect? It boils down to two factors.
First, people bring in ideas to whatever they experience. It may be experience in meeting somebody new from the member of the opposite sex. And guess what happens, you bring expectations from your previous relationships. It is no surprise that you tend to click with certain members of the opposite sex rather than others. Believe it or not, it has nothing to do with them. And has everything to do with you, your expectations and how you choose to see the situation.
The other factor involves reading into situations. You have to understand that there is no such thing as a neutral phenomenon when it comes to analysis. We’re always editing our reality, and superimposing our meaning on the things that we see, hear, touch, taste and smell. In other words, we are in control of our reality but, we are not aware of that.
It’s as if we sit back, watch and accept it as our reality. No, it isn’t it’s your judgment of reality, it may be your analysis of reality. But there’s really nothing indicating that this is the cold-hard-uncut crystal form of reality.
Why? Well ask your buddy. When your buddy watches the same phenomenon, or experiences the same thing, he could come up with a different judgment. He probably would come up with a different reading of what both of you just experienced. This is a result from the fact that people look at the world differently. This, again, emanates from their background, as well as, their past actions and experiences.
If you put all these factors together, it’s no surprise that movies tend to be very random as far as quality is concerned. There is no one-size, fits-all movie that is guaranteed to make people happy regardless of; where they come from, what they look like, what they’ve done in the past, and what their expectations are. Those kinds of movies simply do not exist.
I shared this with you because I don’t want you to become a victim of your own expectations. I don’t want you to read into movies all sorts of messages that you wish they would say and end up being disappointed or dissatisfied—this happens all the time. In fact, if you feel that you are so sophisticated and so intelligent that it’s very hard to please you, the problem may not be the movie. The fault may not lie with the director, the screen writer or the actors on the screen, rather, the problem may lie with you.
You may be thinking about the movie in such a way that your processing it in the worst way possible as far as your ability to be happy is concerned. So how do you get the most out of the next movie you choose to see? You have to watch it with absolutely no preconceptions. I don’t care whether you read tons of reviews for it, I don’t care if you hang out with people who are over the moon about it. Purge your mind of all this information and just look at it with a fresh set of eyes. You would be glad you did.